When something is bothering you, try sitting with a small piece of amethyst in your hand. Take a few deep breaths while you focus on the hurt you are feeling. Really dig deep and feel the pain. Bring it to the surface of your mind. Then feel it draining away out of your body, and into the piece of amethyst in your hand.
Repeat the process until you feel throughly cleansed. Then Place the amethyst in the soil of a pot plant and leave it there for 21 days. While burying the crystal - imagine that you are also burying all your pain and hurt along with the stone. Repeat this process every 21 days until you feel the you have let go of this energy.
Ref: how to be an urban Goddess.